It's been said that a successful husband is one who
makes more money than the wife can spend and that a successful wife is a woman who
can find such a man.
Money - or a lack thereof - plays a HUGE role in
a marriage. All of those 'little' problems you may have recognized but suppressed before
getting married are magnified exponentially if things aren't going well financially, regardless of how many 'Married-But-Filing-Separately' scenarios
your slippery accountant/cousin Phil may propose.
So if you're thinking of a career as something
that's as financially secure and prolific as, say, the bass player in a
neo-punk, thrash band - or even as a blog writer - and your Beloved originally comes
from a home where she had her own 1500sq ft bedroom/bathroom suite and likes to
spend money like a drunken sailor alone at Christmas in the Philippines, then be
prepared for some rough seas ahead.
Conversely, suddenly finding yourself on your
honeymoon and $28,000 in
credit card debt isn't good either. Momo, the knuckle-dragger that the collection
agency uses, doesn't really give a shit that all that money had been spent before you even knew that you don't eat
the top of the wedding cake. (You didn’t know that? Good thing you’re reading this blog then, huh?)
Her
debts are now your debts, muchacho. And your car repossesses
just as easily as does hers on a dark, moonless night.
extra credit: Now you know why she makes you park your classic
’75 Firebird out on the street while her 2008 Camry gets the driveway.
So, please, I beg of you, sit down with each other, tell
her that you love her desperately and then endeavor to find out about each other's complete
and current financial situation. During this discussion, remember to
discuss both of your expectations with money, as well as an honest assessment
of how important material things are to either of you. Be very sure of what you're
marrying into financially.
And if you're marrying her for her money, just
know you're going to earn every single cent of it.
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